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Daily Grace Note #1 - Forgive but don't forget

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 "I can forgive but I cannot forget" - Henry Ward Beecher I forgive in order to move forward, but I don't forget and therefore I live accordingly. No one can make me a victim unless I allow them to. Without my consent, people who try to hurt me can never pass the border. I refuse to be the victim of the situation and I will take control of my life. I refuse to be manipulated by others. I forgive them because I need to move on even without them. I forgive them so that I will not carry them wherever I go. As I forgive them, I will leave them behind where they should belong.  Let go of anger. It hurts you more than the person you fell rage toward. Move on. Life is too valuable to get stuck! Anger holds you to where you left yourself. Let go of your anger so that you can move forward. Anger is like a heavy stone chained on you. It cannot be moved and in turn you are stuck with it. Let go of that chain and free yourself at last. Like a double-edged sword, refuse yourself to be

The Sin of Omission

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The Sin of Omission Margaret Sangster It isn’t the thing you do, dear,    It’s the thing you leave undone That gives you a bit of a heartache    At setting of the sun. The tender work forgotten,    The letter you did not write, The flowers you did not send, dear,    Are your haunting ghosts at night.   The stone you might have lifted    Out of a brother’s way; The bit of heartsome counsel    You were hurried too much to say; The loving touch of the hand, dear,    The gentle, winning tone Which you had no time nor thought for    With troubles enough of your own.   Those little acts of kindness    So easily out of mind, Those chances to be angels    Which we poor mortals find - They come in night and silence,    Each sad, reproachful wraith, When hope is faint and flagging,    And a chill has fallen on faith. For life is all too short, dear,    And sorrow is all to great, To suffer our slow compassion    That tarries until too late: And it isn’t the thing you do, dear,    It’s the thing

Is Life Really Unfair?

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                 Life could be sometimes unfair and unfriendly to the many days of your life. But hold on because things usually don't last. They pass and they don't live forever. Believe in the meaning and reason for waking up this morning. It could feel that it is just another day but today is the only day you have. The past cannot be undone and tomorrow is yet to come. Surrender these two impostors to the power of the presence.          Look at the sky. Sometimes it's gloomy and sometimes it's sunny. Both are beautiful to the eyes of the one who doesn't judge. The weeds and the flowers are a matter of perception. Both have their beauty.          Hold on life could be preparing a big surprise for you. Be opened. Life has so many things to offer if  only you open your eyes to the reality that life happens only in the moment. Take a deep breath and surrender your judgments. Take a deep breath and take time to appreciate the moment. Tame the emotions inside.         

Is The Devil Real?

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                    Most of the population of the world today perhaps may no longer believe in the existence of the devil or the demon roaming around among the living. Though ancient literatures documented the works of the devil, modern science may seem not convince of their existence. For science people, the devils and the demons just belong to one of the ancient stories that survived through history because it was appealing enough to drive fear among people so that they may avoid what is bad, evil or wrong.           Though there are cults that propagate beliefs to Satan, such belief is not so appealing to the new age people. Such cult group is popular only because it arouses curiosity to people. Mostly nowadays Satan and his minions are just myth of the past and they are just figure used in the past and the present to induce fear so that people will subject themselves to authority.           But the world-renowned author and psychiatrist M. Scott Speck attested to the existence of t

Short hymn of praise: Blessed be God!

 Short Hymn of Praise: Blessed be God! Blessed be God who loves us so dearly! Blessed be God, Blessed be God! Blessed be God who loves us so dearly! Blessed be God, Blessed be God! One of the famous sayings of Saint Candida Maria De Jesus

Why Do People Cheat?

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              Why Do Happy People Cheat? (Part 1)                Have you ever loved someone in your life? Or have you ever loved someone who cheated on you? Perhaps, all of us has ever loved someone in our life. Maybe it was the love that we kept to ourselves because we didn't have the courage to say it to the one we loved or maybe a love that we shared with someone whom we chose to be with for the rest of our lives.           One of the most hurting situation a relationship could experience is when someone in the relationship had cheated.          Many people cannot understand why do people who are so much in love with one another suddenly cheated on his/her partner or on his/her beloved? There many ways you can hurt your partner and infidelity is the worst way to shatter  the glass. Cheating on your partner gives a lot of questions to the deceived partner and a lot of discovery to the one who cheated. But why do infidelity happens? Why do people cross the line when the relations

The Secret of Happiness

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Want to be Happy? Be Grateful.                    Some wise people of the ancient world would say that the greatest good in the world is happiness. They even add that happiness is the ultimate goal of man, the very thing that man must pursue. That is why the pursuit of happiness is very popular in the United States of America and even enshrined in their constitution.            Happiness is what we strive for. Happiness is what every being wants to attain. And in the attainment of happiness some of us sort extreme actions to the point of hurting ourselves. Happiness where in the long run would destroy us at the end. This is not true happiness. True happiness should promote our well-being and should have a long lasting positive effect on our emotional, physical, psychological and even spiritual state.      One secret to this kind of happiness is the cultivation of the attitude of being grateful. Tons of research would prove the gamut benefits of being grateful. But many of us ignore the

TOP - Eysenck, McCrae, and Costa’s Trait and Factor Theories by Feist & Feist

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  Photosource:  9400_429_68-costa-and-mccrae.jpg Eysenck, McCrae, and Costa’s Trait and Factor Theories Hans Jurgen Eysenck was born in Berlin on March 4, 1916, the only child of a theatrical family. Eysenck’s factor analytic technique yielded three general bipolar factors or types—extraversion/introversion, neuroticism/stability, and psychoticism/superego. The Five-Factor Theory (often called the Big Five) includes neuroticism and extra- version; but it adds openness to experience, agreeableness, and conscientiousness. These terms differ slightly from research team to research team, but the underlying traits are quite similar. The Pioneering Work  of Raymond B. Cattell An important figure in the early years of psychometrics was Raymond B. Cattell (1905–1998), who was born in England but who spent most of his career in the United States. First, Cattell used an  inductive method  of gathering data; that is, he began with no preconceived bias concerning the number or name of traits or ty

TOP - Allport: Psychology of the Individual by Feist & Feist

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Photosource:  slide_1.jpg   Allport: Psychology of the Individual More than any other personality theorist, Gordon Allport emphasized the  uniqueness of the individual.  He believed that attempts to describe people in terms of general traits rob them of their unique individuality. For this reason, Allport objected to trait and factor theories that tend to reduce individual behaviors to common traits. Consistent with Allport’s emphasis on each person’s uniqueness was his willingness to study in depth a single individual. He called the study of the individual  morphogenic science  and contrasted it with the  nomothetic  methods used by most other psychologists. Morphogenic methods are those that gather data on a  single in- dividual,  whereas nomothetic methods gather data on groups of people. Allport also advocated an  eclectic  approach to theory building. Gordon Willard Allport was born on November 11, 1897, in Montezuma, Indiana, the fourth and youngest son of John E. Allport and Ne